Why am I happy with mediocrity

Cheers to mediocrity

 

Attention, a confession follows: Sometimes I feel pretty small next to some of my colleagues in diversity and I am ashamed of my mediocrity. You have just founded, are bosses, work successfully as a freelancer and have great customers. I'm happy for each of them, but sometimes it makes me feel insignificant. Shining role models, interesting résumés and exciting foregrounds are not always just inspiring. Sometimes and in some cases they make you feel insignificant. Because you don't live “the dream” yourself. Because you have great ideas yourself, but lack the courage and drive to implement them. Or because you yourself find your ideas insufficient. Do you know that feeling? I promise you: you are not alone with this!

Where does the feeling come from?

Quite frankly, I feel inadequate quite often. My ideas are not good enough. My discipline is insufficient. My talent is limited and my life is pretty average. I see other women my age, what they have achieved, what they are doing and what defines them, and I realize that I also look rather gray. Finding number 1: Always the comparison gives the feeling of being inadequate or just average. Each of us, if you look at them individually, has something very special about them. Only in comparison with others do we begin to put our light under a bushel. It's great to see and appreciate what others are doing. But we should never let this make us feel insufficient. We may be gifted differently, but that doesn't mean that our skills are worth less or less. Mediocrity, the feeling of just being average, only arises through the glorification of the other.

Another confession: So far, none of my projects have survived long enough to deserve the name. I always have 1000 ideas, bursting with euphoria and zest for action - and no later than four weeks later the fire in the pan has gone out, the continuation of the project is torture and I feel like a failure. The only consolation: there is always at least one second person in this world who feels the same way. Is that maybe even you? What would you cite as a reason for us doing this? Obviously, one would first guess that there is a lack of discipline and insufficient stamina. Might be. If you ask me, the reason is much deeper: We haven't found our “why” yet. We may have great ideas and are only bubbling over with zeal - but the motivation for the project was the wrong one.

You cannot force your "why"

There is one crux that is connected to Facebook, Instagram and Co. We are in constant comparison and are constantly confronted with the success stories of others. For me, the constant contact to ambitious women and the start-up scene through my blogging life is also linked to this stumbling block. I hear, read, see success stories of others, talk about exciting projects and the thought creeps in very quickly: You have to do that too. You have to be able to keep up with that. This is the real life. So I started my projects for two reasons: 1. The desire to belong. It was only because I wanted to be part of this dazzling, pulsating scene that I wanted to implement projects far too quickly before I knew whether the euphoria was more like a flash in the pan or permanently burning embers. I started things, initiated projects, just so that I could say: Look here, I'll make something out of it!
2. I followed the wish for recognition. My projects were based on the fact that others liked them. Solving a problem, adding value, doing something I love - yes, that's what I wanted to do too. But first of all, I wanted to be recognized, praised, liked. Sooooo bad motivation to pull something off. Because we all know: In times of social media, likes are difficult to generate, followers to collect with difficulty and unfortunately our fellow human beings are unfortunately faster with criticism than with praise.

You are GREAT as you are!

Basically, my projects were doomed to failure from the start. Because I am currently lacking a “why”, I have nothing of my own to show, because I know that I would tackle any other project mainly for the reasons mentioned above - and thus fail. But, you know what? That's not bad! It's okay not to have a “why”. Enthusiasm is good, but not all of us have to walk through the world with a burning heart. It's perfectly okay to feel busy with your everyday life and spend your free time with Netflix, a book or whatever, instead of working on a new project 24/7. Maybe one day we will meet our “why” - if not, then that doesn't matter. Even everyday life as an employee without spectacular hobbies or exotic trips can always be exciting and wonderful. We just have to be able to stand by it. Stand by yourself and your life! If you are happy with your life, you are satisfied and you don't miss anything essential, then it is perfectly fine to live the mediocrity! We are the balancing pole that the world needs. That we are supposedly less exciting than others doesn't make us worse. You are GREAT the way you are! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Our generation in particular is driven by the desire to be something special. The ever-increasing public, in which everyone leads their life through social networks, gives us the feeling that we have to bring our potential to the outside world. We quickly fall into the thought trap that our life is only worth mentioning if it receives public attention. This is bullshit. Each of us is valuable, lovable, noteworthy. None of us need a magazine article, a management position or our own business for this. With all the power women that we see, hear, and read every day and whom we put in the limelight even with diversity, we must not forget one thing: whether quiet and secret or loud and public - each of us is a heroine. Because even just a smile for the cashier or opening a door can make us special for someone else. So don't worry if your life is extraordinary enough. Instead, let's toast: Cheers to mediocrity!

Your Celsy

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